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Welcome to The Dating Chronicles!
Thank you for signing up for The Dating Chronicles, a mix of fun anecdotes, informative articles, relationship insights, food for emotional thought, and eCoaching pieces and exercises.
This is a field I have been working in for over 20 years, so decided it was time to both consolidate and share that knowledge.
I also want to make sure the publication is relevant and timely, so let me know what you would like to see covered, and I will see who I can invite, and what I can curate.
I have several Categories already set up, including Ghosting, Dating Disasters, Narcissism, Healing Heartbreak, Cheating and Infidelity, and eCoaching insights.
Online Dating and Dating Apps have been suggested; great idea, and it is one where I would invite Guest Curators to take part.
Email me with your thoughts, ideas, and suggestions. Do also send links to great articles to include in future Issues.
My email address is: marilyn@tranceformationstm.com
The next Edition includes pieces about the neuroscience of relationships, how to break up the easy way if you've had a bad relationship breakup, and also exploring issues surrounding red flags in business partnerships and relationships.
Enjoy the first Edition and let me know what you think!
Warm regards,
Marilyn Devonish
Relationship Basics - How to Build a Healthy Relationship
This is the first Edition, so I thought it would be good to go back to basics.
Marilyn Devonish Press Coverage
Dreaming About Your Ex
'Digital marketing agency AGY47 spoke to Marilyn Devonish, the NeuroSuccess Coach and founder of TranceFormations, a coaching, training and consultancy organisation to uncode the meaning behind these dreams.'
The Agency asked me to analyse the most common dreams people were having during lockdown. They included dreaming about your ex, falling, losing teeth, and dreaming about someone new.
My favourite Dream Analysis Process comes from Huna, so if you're one of my Huna Podcast Subscribers, I will share more in future mp3 updates.
If you've struggled to interpret your dreams, or been curious about possible meanings, read on.
eCoaching
Been Through a Crap Relationship Experience?
I know many have been through a crap relationship experience. A Coaching Question I ask is: What did you learn about yourself?
Sometimes it appears some relationships are designed to press our buttons. The fact our buttons can be pressed also means there could be something to learn or pay attention to in amongst the angst and emotional turmoil. It is easier to determine once the dust has settled and the initial sting, shock, hurt, or anger has subsided.
A big learning for me was about standards, boundaries, and where and how I choose to spend my time. If the energy is not being met, matched, or reciprocated, and the communication is ultra lazy or non-existent, no matter how 'nice' they seem, I know it is time to get out of dodge.
It can be tough going through crappy experiences where things were not as presented or what they seemed.
If you have communicated and shared how you feel, and come up with ideas and solutions for making positive changes and there is still nothing coming back, I say don't waste your time.
Also, don't waste the experience. Once you have picked yourself up, decide what there is to learn from the situation, and most importantly for me, what you will do differently next time.
What have been some of the biggest relationship lessons for you after coming out of a bad experience?
How will you apply what you learnt as you move onwards, upwards. and forwards from here?
In future Issues we'll talk more about those emotional buttons, and how to diffuse or disconnect them.
Narcissists
What Are the Biggest Narcissistic Red Flags?
This is an interesting online conversation where contributors have shared their tips and insights about dating a narcissist.
WATCH THIS SPACE!
I will also Host a Webinar about How to Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse. Keep an eye on your email inbox if this topic is of interest.
Guest Posts
Steve Maraboli: Stop Arguing with Reality
One of my favourite sayings is from the late great orator, Poet, and Author, Dr Maya Angelou. She said:
When someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time."
This quote from Steve Maraboli is along the same lines.
Click the link above to follow Steve's Facebook page if you want a daily helping of relationship gems.
Dating Disasters
Judi Love Talks to Single Women & Issues a Warning to Juvenile Men
Oh my gosh, this is a video from Judi Love, recorded 4 years ago. Brilliant laugh on why there are so many single women, and about the men who, as we used to say back in the day, "don't come correct."
Click the link for a #LaugherBreak and possibly a few home truths!